80后，我们还能混多久

混，也可谓一种生活，但真正的生活是混不了一辈子的。现在开始混日子，老来之时，遍是无日子可混，无生活可享，从而后悔莫及，遗憾终生。
    越来越习惯安逸，越来越害怕冒险，越来越逃避责任，越来越淡化理想，开始所谓的平静生活，平淡心态，而事实却只是自欺欺人。当一天和尚撞一天钟，日复一 日，年复一年，看似无欲无求，实则内心彷徨；看似随遇而安，实则斗志丧失；看似平静淡雅，实则危机四伏。自古有云，居安思危，而现在已慢慢忘却了梦想，渐 渐融入了安逸，对于安逸之中隐藏的危机，视而不见，直至危机四伏，才措手不及，深感后悔，却是悔之晚矣。时常反思现在的自己，偶尔遐想未来的自己，细细品 味却发现，那只是一个空洞的梦想，可望而不可及，可求而不可遇，若以目前的状态继续前行，无论何时都不可能达到自己预期的目标，看看现在，想想未来，就会 控制不住的心慌，情不自禁的烦躁，在理想与现实中矛盾着，在感性与理性中纠结着，在忘我与自我中无奈着，想要改过自新，却是无从下手；想要痛改前非，却是 无力回天。
      现在的自己如同温水中的青蛙，在慢慢等待着死亡来临的那一刻，每天过着同样的日子，虽有小波澜，却难以引起足够斗志；每天都会无所事事，虽偶有忙碌，却只 是闲多忙少；上班时盼望着下班，下班后期盼着自己的小天地，将烦恼抛却，将思绪放纵，一天中最幸福的时刻或许只有睡觉，忘却了现实，超脱了自我，偶尔做个 美梦，将灵魂尽情翱翔于梦境深渊。而自己很清楚，这只是在逃避，逃避现实，躲避责任，长此以久，必然是碌碌无为，庸碌一生，想要终结，却是举目无措，明知 是错，却不思悔改，明知失败，却一意孤行，内心痛苦而无奈，却不知如何自救。
      现实中或许有很多人同我一样，混沌的过着日子，得过且过，盲目的追随着目标，却看不到前方的路，混着日子，却做着白日梦，下着慷慨的承诺，过着我行我素的 生活，表着激昂的决心，继续着唯我独尊的日子，不思悔改，不求上进，偶尔静心反思，才知自己已远离目标，寂夜反省，才觉自己已走入歧途。明明是亡羊补牢， 为时不晚，却总是心有余而力不足。混沌的日子，究竟何时了结？庸碌的岁月，究竟何时终结？
        古语有云：人贵有自知之明。而事实呢，我们往往自知而不自制，又有何用？平凡的人满地都是，而真正的人才却是屈指可数，在身体上人与人之间都是相差无几 的，而欠缺的只有思维，人因为有了独立思考的能力，故而高级，故而神秘，也就是因为思维而将人类划分开来。每个人都或多或少的存有压力，而又有几人能将压 力化作紧迫感，从而形成动力，激发求生的本能；每个人周围都有一个独特的环境，而又有几人能够在环境中寻求突破，走出真正属于自己的道路。人贵有自知之 明，而人才贵有自制之能力，没有人想要庸碌一生，亦没有人愿意混沌一世，想要自救唯有自省，有自省乃有自知，有自知才会有自制，不能胜存心，安能胜苍穹？

Keep Going & Never Give Up

Every passing minute… is another chance to turn it all around.

No doubt, our life is full of painful, obstacles… but without the sour, you won’t know the taste of sweet… without the bitter, the sweet isn't sweet. 

Keep going, perhaps it remains. But if stop, it is 100% sure you won’t find the turning point, it may just in front of you.

莫恨亦需持恒心

一时的过错，换来六年的埋窗苦干。六年过了，也学会了”读万卷书不如行万里路“的道理！

六年了，正如无间道里提到的“三年又三年”，方可从当时的深渊里爬起来。六年的努力，总算没有白费！毕竟当时的年少得志成就了一个可比喻为不可一世的少年。但骄兵必败，果然不出几年，就已经从百尺上的竿头甩了下来。还好这一失不足以成为不可翻身的千古恨！只要不自暴自弃，卷土重来的结果谁可预料？当然以后要时常提醒自己，前车之鉴，可为借镜！

从小就曾听过一首儿歌 - “自己跌到自己爬”，妈妈常常唱的，长大以后才发现妈妈的用心良苦。

 

 

一失足成千古恨

         莫恨亦需持恒心

人生哲学

                                                                                                 

                                     

 

   

                                                                                                                                       

   

 

 

 

 

关于这一些，有的我们已学过，都懂了。但是知道，不是做到 ！

往往知道一大堆的人生道理，也未必是。。。

Happy New Year & Happy Birthday !!! (2007)

圣诞老人在梦中告诉我,再过几天,他将会把恶灵灵气(2007)给带走,在我生日的前一天把儿令你发(2008)当生日礼物送给我.在这一年,儿令你发也将会如其名一样,跟在我身旁.此时恶灵灵气突然感触地对我说

" 我悄悄地走了, 正如我悄悄地来了,

我挥一挥衣袖, 把恶气全带走"

对我来说,恶灵灵气一年都跟着我,但我从来都没怨过它.相反地,它竟然让我学会了好多好多......路难走,慢慢走.障难越,绕道越.虽然它一直都成了我的绊脚石,但每一次当我爬起来时,更觉得自己越来越强,越来越不容易被它绊倒.还有路上我认识了自强不息,它提醒我,只要跟着它走,就会一同到更辽阔的世界去.

恶灵灵气啊!别这样啦,我还来不及谢谢你."玉不琢,不成器".如果不是你,我这一年不是空空荡荡的.你走了,我还会想念你,想起这一年你留给我的经验.当儿令你发来的时候,万佛朝宗式地谷出去.希望你可以到需要磨练的人身边,帮他成器.

恶灵灵气临走前,问了我想要什么? 嘿,儿令你发都跟我了,我还要求什么呢?想了想,我希望它把它的同党们,霉气,衰气也从我家人,朋友们身上带走.哗谢, 真爽快,它答应了.但它叮咛说,叫你们好好准备新的一年,大家一起"二零零发"

朋友们, 一年之计始于春,让我们现在开始就为我们的二零零发做计划.不管2007走地好不好,过去了就让它过去,新的一年，是人生旅程的又一个起点，愿你能够坚持不懈地跑下去，迎接你的将是那美好的充满无穷魅力的未来！

在我记忆的画屏上增添了许多美好的怀念，似锦如织！请接受我深深的祝愿:

愿所有的欢乐都陪伴着你们直到永远！

THE FLYING SPIDER 飞翔的蜘蛛

One day, a black spider wove a very large web between two eaves in the backyard. Does a spider fly ? How else could it stretch the first thread from one end of the yard to the other, about 10 feet apart ?

一天，一只黑蜘蛛在后院的两檐之间结了一张很大的网。心想，难道蜘蛛会飞？要不，从这个檐头，中间有一丈余宽，第一根线是怎么拉过去的？

I later discovered that the spider had made many turns along the way. From one edge of the eaves, it made a knot, and made its way downward step by step along the wall, with its butt lifted upward so that the thread could be kept away from the sand or other objects on the floor. It crawled across the space, and then made its way up towards the other edge of the eaves until it was at almost the same height. It would then tighten the thread. The same was repeated many, many times.

后来，发现蜘蛛走了许多弯路，从一个檐头起，打结，顺墙而下，一步一步向前爬，小心翼翼，翘起尾部，不让丝沾到地面的沙石或别的物体上，走过空地，再爬上对面的檐头，高度差不多了，再把丝收紧，以后也是如此。

The morale of the story

The spider does not fly, but it can span its web across the air. It is diligent, sensitive, taciturn yet sturdy insect, whose web is woven in a highly delicate and orderly manner. We must therefore bear in mind that the spider cannot fly, but can still span its web across the air. In our career, we must have a strong belief in success and never give up. This is because faith is a powerful force. If you believe that you will succeed , then you will.

温馨提示

蜘蛛不会飞翔，但它能够把网凝结在半空中。它是勤奋，敏感，沉默而坚韧的昆虫，它的网制得精巧而规 矩，八卦形地张开，仿佛得到神助。于是，我们要记住了蜘蛛不会飞翔，但它照样把网结在空中。在自己的事业上，你必须拥有一颗坚信成功的信念，永不放弃的精 神。因为信念是一种无坚不摧的力量，当你坚信自己能成功时，你必能成功。

特别的一天

今天是特别的一天，百感交集

人总要为自己的所做所为负责任

过去的，已无法挽回

无法挽回的，也不见得是坏的结局

知道了是好的结局，当初又何必苦苦挽回

今天的感触

人总会低潮；没有低潮，又怎会有巅峰。

问题是，我们要如何在低潮时，用最短的时间去恢复。

然后去创造另一个高峰。

生命不应只是一条直线，

应该有风有浪，

风在这条直线上添加一些凹凸线，

浪在这条道路上画上缤纷色彩。

DARE TO EMBRACE CHALLENGES 勇于接受挑战充实自我

One day, a lobster and a hermit crab met in the deep ocean. The hermit crab saw that the lobster was trying to shed its shell, exposing its soft and tender body. The hermit crab said anxiously: "Lobster, how could you give up the only hard shell covering your body ? Are you not afraid that the larger fishes would swallow you up ? With your condition now, even the swift current would bang you onto the rock, and you are not going to survive that !"

The Lobster answered calmly: "Thank you very much for your concern. However, you don't seem to understand that each time we lobsters grow, we must first shed our old shells before we can grow solid and new ones. The danger we are facing now is only to prepare ourselves for the tougher times ahead."

The hermit crab was thinking, all these while he was only busily searching for shelters, and had never thought of the ways to grow stronger. He could only survive under the shelter of others, and had restricted his growth and development.

The Moral of The Story

We all have our own comfort zones. If we want to go beyond our current achievements, we must never draw a line to confine ourselves. We must always be prepared to bravely embrace the challenges to excel ourselves. You can be a lot better than what you thought you were capable of.

有一天, 龙虾与寄居蟹在深海中相遇，寄居蟹看见龙虾正把自己的硬壳脱掉，只露出娇嫩的身躯。寄居蟹非常紧张地说：“龙虾，你怎可以把唯一保护自己身躯的硬壳也放弃呢？难道你不怕有大鱼一口把你吃掉吗？以你现在的情况来看，连急流也会把你冲到岩石去，到时你不死才怪呢？”

龙虾气定神闲地回答：“谢谢你的关心，但是你不了解，我们龙虾每次成长，都必须先脱掉旧壳，才能生长出更坚固的外壳，现在面对的危险，只是为了将来发展得更好而作出准备。”

寄居蟹细心思量一下，自己整天只找可以避居的地方，而没有想过如何令自己成长得更强壮，整天只活在别人的护荫之下，难怪永远都限制自己的发展。

温馨提示

每个人都有一定的安全区，你想跨越自己目前的成就，请不要划地自限，勇于接受挑战充实自我，你一定会发展得比想象中更好。

心灵小息 二零零八年三月 Spiritual Rest Stop (March 2008)

向前看 ！

有一位年轻人，走到马戏班拜师，要学习走钢线的功夫。几个月后，师傅认为年青人已掌握了基础的技巧，所以便要年青人走到钢线，正式练习。

虽然地面已有装有安全网，可是年青人第一次走上几十尺的高台，心里实在战战兢兢。当走了十多步之后，他往下看，越看心里就越惊慌，差点儿失去重心。

就在这时，师傅在地面大声喝叫了一句话，令年青人重获信心，再次取得平衡，那句话就是：“向前看”！

请您想一想：

你就是你自己的师傅，当面对逆境和挑战，记紧对自己说：“向前看！专心一意，面对目前”。

Look Ahead ！

A young man went to the circus wanting to learn how to walk on a tightrope. After a few months, the teacher felt that the young man had been able to master some of the fundamental skills, and wanted him to formally train on the tightrope.

Despite the fact that there was a safety net spread underneath him, the young man was dead afraid, as it was the first time he ever had to walk so high above the ground. After walking a couple of steps, he looked down. The more he looked down, the more fearful he got, and he almost lost his balance.

Just then the teacher shouted from the floor something that gave the young man renewed confidence : "Look ahead !"

Think about it :

You are your own teacher. Whenever you are facing difficulty or challenges, tell yourself, "Look ahead !" Be focused and face the present.

Spiritual Rest Stop 心灵小息

There were three construction workers. One day, after a hard day's work, they went back to their respective homes.

On the way home, the first worker was thinking, "If not because I have to lead a living, I would never do that bricklaying work. It's killing me !"

The second worker was thinking, "I have to do that bricklaying work every day. How monotonous !"

The third worker was thinking, " I worked very hard today to complete a majestic church, and after the church is completed, hundreds of people can come here for the prayer service. What a meaningful project this is !"

Now, please think about it :

Are you complaining, throwing your temper, or being creative in your life ?

Are you laying that bricks or wall or moving forward to a meaningful goal ?

Always remember to focus your mind on the bright future.

有三个建筑工人,一天工作完了各自回家。

在返家途中，第一个工人心里想：“要不是为了生活,我真不会做那砌砖工作,辛苦得很。”

第二个工人心里想：“每天就是在砌砖，真是沉闷得叫人发疯。”

第三个工人心里想：“我每天为了完成一所宏伟的教堂而努力，完成后教堂可容纳几百人做礼拜，这实在是一件极有意义的工程。“

想一想：

在生活中，你是在投诉，在愤怒，还是有所创造呢？你是在砌砖，砌墙，还是为有意义的目标前进呢？请紧记，将思想集中于光明前景。

二零零七年十二月十四日

路走到了今天,又打回了原形.一片迷失的森林,真的,要走出去,那么难吗?还是当局者不愿闯出去?

一年又快要过了,原来过去一年我可以这样过,从来也没想过.我真的可以孤孤寂寂的过日子.那接下来的一年我又要怎么过?想了想,家人还是最重要.新的一年,希望可以抽多一点时间陪家人,远方的妈妈,爸爸,姐姐,弟弟,三个妹妹,我有一个很幸福的家!可能因为上一代的恩怨,到了这一代,感情特别好.我希望我的家人健健康康.多给我一点时间,我已经很努力了,我一定会让我的家人过的好好的,无论我现在要怎样吃苦.

一件不幸的事情发生了.我的朋友,希望接下来的日子,你也一样会好好过.无论发生了什么事,路还是要继续走.人生不会因为一件事而停下来,记住我们还有其他好多好多的...

We, human being are comfort what we are, where we are, and who we are all the time. Making a transformation of life is usually difficult because we are familiar dealing with most of thing in our current environment. Suddenly we need to change, how much we will lose in making such changes? How fast could we suit to the new environment? How big our network can grow in the new survive land? But this is not the reason for us to resist the change, as human being, we are the most intelligence to suit, survive with new land.

Transform is difficult, but will be the only way to find myself a better future. Or should I? I believe remain will be the crisis for me. Four years, I’m living lighthearted, working unpressurized, sleeping comfortable (most of the time “no”). Everything is fine for me, thanks god. But if consistently, it might make me no improvement at all since long time I’m standing in the same place. I’m having all the same experience, the works are repeated, and the same words out from my mouth “Everything can lose but not self confident”. Year by year, I’m doing still the same, and I know I will not go further if I remain the comfortable position where I’m now. The transformation is a must !

I did transform my life once four years ago from self employed to work for others. I think the timing now is suit for me to plan for another switch. My eager to change, my willingness to accept new challenge, my enthusiasm to grant my better future. Do I have another choices? I would prefer to use the picture of Spiderman; it said thousand of my presence feeling.

Excessive

May be you are right. Looking back for the past few years, i realized that my judgment about life might be aggressive after encountering a drawn up in my business.

True or false? Right or wrong? Like standing before a piece of mirror, your right hand is shown at the other side in the shinning screen. How could we judge? Many things do not have answers, i shouldn't insist my view and disagree others.

I’m totally release, and noticed that few years back how my stubbornness is. Now my life has come to another level.

I learned the new living philosophy, but should I change?

May be I need some refreshment. Visit to the nature; take a deep breath to the fresh air. Take a recess to continue my longer living journey.